guó yì zhì ér jiā nán qí
国 易 治 而 家 难 齐
Easier to rule a kingdom than run a family
‘Running’ a family in such a way that it remains a happy, productive and united is hard work. The dynamics are often difficult, emotion can cloud judgement, siblings jockey for position. In addition you may have the opinions and interference of other relatives and in-laws to contend with, not to mention your own frailties. At the same time your community and society will be quick to judge you if you are considered to be failing in the task.
Ruling a kingdom would be far easier to my mind, you can issue edicts and have others enforce them, you have impartial advisors to help guide you forward, you have minions to do your bidding..and a bureaucracy to manage affairs, accounts, etc. You can stifle opposition; Obviously I’d be a dictator ….but a benign dictator! You can call me Kim Jong Herschelian!